Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood by Jim Fay & Foster Cline

Author:Jim Fay & Foster Cline [Fay, Jim]
Language: eng
Format: epub, mobi, pdf
Publisher: NavPress Publishing
Published: 2014-02-01T06:00:00+00:00

Getting to “No”

We have the right to expect our children to live the way we want them to live, and sometimes that means saying no. The three basic rules for saying no, which cut down on adolescent rebellion later, are:

1. Say no as seldom as possible. Don’t use the word if you don’t need to.

2. Say no as much as necessary. Use the word if you must.

3. Mean business when you say no.

A lot of teens have trouble with no. But if we use it sparingly, it will mean more when we do say it.

As teens grow older, we may have to say no with one form or another of tough love. For example, “These are my simple requirements: do your chores, earn decent grades, and treat me with respect. They’re pretty simple. If you can’t meet them then I’m sad for you, and you may need to think about that before we can trust you to use our car again or to go out on the weekends on your own.”

We have a responsibility as parents and an obligation to our children to expect and require responsible behavior. That’s not the same as demanding blind obedience. Also, if we keep teens focused on how they can meet expectations for responsible behavior, they’re less likely to be dwelling on how they can get their way.

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